May 16, 2008
Dear Warriors,
Yesterday I flew to Chicago to do the photos and video testimonials for Perry Marshalls www.8020seminar.com. Now that my dad is gone, I can attend as many seminars as I want to continue my search for people who have enough courage to be considered as potential heroes, who are willing to answer the heroes questions.
After taking care of my dad so long, one of the major things I learned about heroes is that no one is a hero all the time. Heroes are individuals who are willing to take their heroes journey as defined by Joseph Campbell in his book "Hero With a Thousand Faces." It is a process rather than a destination…a part of living life to its fullest and seeking the purpose for which you were created.
My dad was a hero to me because of his quiet acceptance of the consequences of his stroke four years ago…paralysis on his left side, diapers and life in a hospital bed and wheel chair. Over four years I rarely heard him complain, get angry at others or whine about his condition.
He always had a kind word for others and still wanted to give everyone a tender, compassionate hug, letting them know they were loved unconditionally. Women, especially all the hospice nurses, bath ladies, grief counselors, spiritual counselors, case workers, loved my dad for this simple, compassionate non-sexual act.
With their constant activities working with people that are dying, the emotional stress is enormous. To have a patient who ministered to the care givers was truly unique.
As my dad's son, it is truly a great challenge to carry on his legacy. Yesterday, to add some humor to all the airline travelers lives, I decided to travel as Superman rather than Captain Biorhythm. With my recent loss, I did not feel up to explaining the story of Captain Biorhythm and giving everyone a balancing hug.
The good thing about wearing a Superman shirt is that everyone knows your name instantly. They are already your friend.
You don't have to take the time to explain leaping small obstacles in a single bound, having bullets bounce off your chest and doing feats of super strength. Everyone wanted to know why I was taking an airline and I told them, "The rest of my superhero outfit is at the cleaners and I cannot fly without my cape, special shoes and utility belt. Without the airfoil features of my cape, I cannot control my destination or guarantee as safe landing."
That made many people laugh and brightened their day. It is truly amazing how ready people are to laugh and smile when someone has the courage to be different, outstanding and participate in helping to save the world from depression, anger, hatred, boredom and apathy.
take care,
ralph
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